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Meet World’s oldest living married couple, Zelmyra and Herbert Fisher of North Carolina. They have been married for 85 years and hold the Guinness World Record for the longest marriage of a living couple.
The happily married couple, 101-year old Zelmyra and her husband Herbert, 104, teamed up with twitter to answer some relationship questions. Check out their take on finding love, pressing through tough times and many more.
1. What made you realize that you could spend the rest of your lives together? Were you scared at all?
H & Z: With each day that passed, our relationship was more solid and secure. Divorce was NEVER an option – or even a thought.
2. How did you know your spouse was the right one for you?
We grew up together & were best friends before we married. A friend is for life – our marriage has lasted a lifetime.
3. Is there anything you would do differently after more than 80 years of marriage?
We wouldn’t change a thing. There’s no secret to our marriage, we just did what was needed for each other & our family.
4. What is your advice to someone who is trying to keep the faith that Mr. Right is really out there?
Zelmyra: Mine was just around the corner! He is never too far away, so keep the faith – when you meet him, you’ll know.
5. What was the best piece of marriage advice you ever received?
Respect, support & communicate with each other. Be faithful, honest & true. Love each other with ALL of your heart
6. What are the most important attributes of a good spouse?
Zelmyra: A hard worker & good provider. The 1920s were hard, but Herbert wanted & provided the best for us. I married a good man!
7. What is your best Valentine’s Day memory?
Zelmyra: I cook dinner EVERY day. Herbert left work early & surprised me – he cooked dinner for me! He is a VERY good cook!
Herbert: I said that I was going to cook dinner for her & she could relax – the look on her face & clean plate made my day!
8. You got married very young – how did u both manage to grow as individuals yet not grow apart as a couple?
“Everyone who plants a seed & harvests the crop celebrates together” We are individuals, but accomplish more together.
9. What is your fondest memory of your 85-year marriage?
Our legacy: 5 children, 10 grandchildren, 9 great-grandchildren, and 1 great-great grandchild.
10. Does communicating get easier with time? How do you keep your patience?
The children are grown, so we talk more now. We can enjoy our time on the porch or our rocking chairs – together.
11. How did you cope when you had to be physically separated for long periods of time?
Herbert: We were apart for 2 months when Z was hospitalized with our 5th child. It was the most difficult time of my life. Zelmyra’s mother helped me with the house and the other children, otherwise I would have lost my mind.
12. At the end of bad relationship day, what is the most important thing to remind yourselves?
Remember marriage is not a contest – never keep a score. God has put the two of you together on the same team to win
13. Is fighting important?
NEVER physically! Agree that it’s okay to disagree, & fight for what really matters. Learn to bend – not break!
14. What’s the one thing you have in common that transcends everything else?
We are both Christians & believe in God. Marriage is a commitment to the Lord. We pray with & for each other every day.
Herbert died in February 2011. May 13, 2011 would have marked their 87 years together.
Awesome
Dis I wud say is Heavenly! God is awesome! I pray 2 GOD for THIS!!!
God!this is great! I convert this type
Praise Praise Master Jesus!!!!
Wao, this is awesome, i mean its the hand of God Almighty..
i think God just use this to Glorify Himself.
their is somebody there thinking on how to break d marriage or divorce him husband. just give it a second Chance. it well in Jesus Name.
to me personally, i lear alot: love, trust be honest to each other ( financially)
don’t break but bend and adjust.
2d single youth out trusting God for a miracle like this, ACCORDING to ur FAITH receive it in Jesus Name.
A̶̲̥̅♏ Sσ inspired abt ťђіș story & i pray ♏ƴ work out ƒȉϞέ & divine IJN
dis awsome God pls give dis kind of Grace and protect my lyfe like dis ooooooo
I am highly excited and exhilarated abt dis posting.This really depicts the saying that marriage is a life contract. I pray that God will bless our marriages in Jesus name
This is great may God give me grace to have such great n fulfilled marriage
We should not only pray but also work to world it
I wish every one would see this and also learn form it,not just reading and enjoying what they said but practice…………….success to every cause we someday will all get there
Wooo,oOº°˚˚˚˚°ºOo , ♍ι̥gτђγ̲̣̣̥ G̶̲̥̅̊ΘD̸̸̮̮̃ make m̶̲̥̅ε̲̣̣̣̥ like herbert cos Ȋ̝̊̅ was also born on that day.may 13.
Wow!!!this more wonderful…I must lv
I prayed my marriage should sweet like this oh lord.
Wow,couples really nd 2learn 4rm dis,dt marriage is 4beta 4worst!n dt divorce is neva a solutn..i learnt sumtn 4rm dis whch,its beta 2bend wt uv built 4yrs dt u feel its nt workn 4yu than break it! i claim wt eva grace God gv dt helpd in sustainin dis 85yrs of marriage in Jesus name Amen..e na easy
Whao! This is incredibly inspiring. Lord grant me the grace to be such an exemplinary couple to my generation I beseech you o Lord amen..
Awsh! Wat a blessed marriage, God please give me a marriage that will last like this… <3
God make my marriage work.
Waoh…wat a beautiful couple to emulate from,,Oh lord,,makemy marriage to b more sweeter n smoother than this IJN… Amen
What an inspiring story, I pray that my wife and I live a life similar as theirs.
Awesome! Lord, whatever grace has made dis marriage so wonderful, i receive it in Jesus name.
what a challenge! I wonder why two month old marriage crashes when there are couple like this to emulate from. I pray Lord for such a grace.
Wow! Dis is wondafu. Luv dis
WOW!!!!! This is too inspiring..I’ll read this million time
Thanks for the post.