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YOUNG couples who are in the process of tying their nuptial-knot have been called to embrace genetic counseling because the genes define love differently from the eyes.

A Professor of Counseling Psychology, in the Department of Counseling Education, University of Ilorin, Professor Sunday Harrison Umoh stated this while delivering the 131st inaugural lecture entitled: “That your road not be rough”

The varsity don added that if after genetic counseling, the would-be couples find out that they are genetically incompatible marital plans or preparations should be jettisoned forthwith.

Umoh a Psychologist noted that pregnant mothers should undergo proper medical examination and should attend antenatal care regularly so that any detectable fetal anomaly may be corrected immediately.

He also added that sex education by trained teachers should be given to adolescents within the school settings so that cases of family altercation and wife battering might be eliminated. Also cases of reckless sexual experimentation. Pregnancy out of wedlock and death through abortions would be prevented.

Umoh also called on parents not to force vocations on their children, rather they should send their children to counselor and allow them to take standardized interest inventories, which may indicate which trade or profession their children may succeed in.

He also noted that the fact that many children who want university education are not able to find admission calls for expansion of universities, the building of new ones and expansion in the curricular offerings. Those who cannot get university admission should be empowered through purposeful planning to be self employed or to learn some practical skills like welding, carpentry , bricklaying.

“The believe that victims of rape are the ones who call for it should be discounted because abnormal men rape young children. There are men who lust after animals, yet others lust after the bodies of dead women, if a homosexual cannot lust after a female but after a male, the nude bode of a female will mean nothing to such a fellow. I would recommend stricter penalties for men who participate in raping women; the penalty suggested for them is to send them to penitentiary for life.

Parents need to take adequate care of their sons and daughters. The efforts of parents should be implemented by teachers, religious people, and counselors. If a parent shows bad example to the children by being a bad role model to the children, the children should be taken away by the social welfare department.

I READ your your column every week and it appears that only women write for advice.

It always seems to be men who create the problems in relationships.

I wonder if you have ever received a letter from a man who is suffering abuse from his wife.

I am sure many people will laugh when they read this and they might not even believe what I am writing.

My wife and I have been married for three years. We were very happy in the beginning, but over time, things have steadily become worse.

We would argue and she would become really nasty. She would call me names and disrespect my family.

She seemed to know exactly what to say to hurt me deeply. I would sometimes look at her while she was angry and I couldn’t even recognise her as the woman that I loved.

Over time, I decided that it was best to ignore her when she got into one of these moods. That didn’t work. In fact, it seemed to push her over the edge. She started hitting, biting, scratching and even spitting at me.

When she loses it like this, she looks like someone who had lost her mind.

Afterwards she is exhausted and she calms down. She then acts as if nothing happened.

The last time this happened I very nearly hit her back, but stopped myself because I am twice her size and obviously much stronger. I knew that if I hit her, I might not stop.

I am scared that one day this might happen, and goodness knows what the result will be.

In spite of this, I still love her and I just wish that things could be the same as when we met. She was such a beautiful, gentle person.

I dread going home every day because I don’t know what sort of mood she is in.

It is almost like she is two people: one who is loving and kind and the other who is a monster. I have never told anyone about this. However, people have started to notice that I am not myself and they continually ask me if everything is alright.

I am seriously thinking of divorce because I am worried that something bad might happen one day when either one of us takes this too far.

I hope you don’t think I am a weak person because I don’t stand up to her.

I just need some advice on how to help her and if that is impossible, then how to leave her. Getting desperate, Pretoria

Dudu says:

I certainly don’t think you are weak at all. In fact, I think you are very brave to have written to me and for seeking help in such a difficult situation.

This subject is very rarely discussed and you would be surprised at how many men suffer from domestic abuse.

You are certainly not alone. No one should ever lift their hand to their partner.

I honestly don’t think that your relationship will be sorted out unless your wife goes for professional help.

When she is calm, you are going to have to tell her exactly how it makes you feel when she treats you in such an appalling and unacceptable way.

Suggest that she goes to a doctor for advice and referral to a specialist.

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1.The thirst
The Thirst can be described as women who are overly eager to find a man. You can find these women at every open bar, every week in search of Mr. Right. We know you’re thirsty because the event is an after work event yet you found time to travel home to put on your freakum dress and 5 inch heels. Thirsty women are at the bar, visibly parched looking at the other women scoping out their competition with the “hawk eye”, giving the appearance of the mean chick. But she’s not mean at all, because #thethirst will turn her into chatty Cathy/ desperate Debbie and the desperation is unattractive.

2.Bad Hair
I’m not Chris Rock and I’m not here to preach about women with that “good hair”, you know… the ones with Indian in their family. Nope not this post. But can we talk about that funky smelling weave with the tracks showing because that’s not a good look. Or my natural sisters — who think dry and flaky is the new it do. We ain’t feeling you neither as Star from Star & Bucwild would say. Just do your hair, I’m not asking you to apply all types of chemicals, or pay Beyoncé money for a lace front. I just want you to look presentable for yourself not for me.

3.Unkept Private Areas
*Hums* “Sometimes I shave my legs sometimes I don’t’. That’s cool and all but I’m going to need you to shave under your arms because that hair brings funk. This brings me to your next private area — the vajayjay (I prefer the P word but this is a family friendly site). If you need a weedwacker down there, that’s a problem. (No one likes wolf punani.) I’m not asking you to get a Brazilian; those things are expensive and painful. But I need you to trim up a little. Give yourself an edge up so your privates resemble a well manicured lawn rather than a jungle safari in the middle of the Congo.

4.Angry for no damn reason
Some of y’all are taking this feminism thing too far — you’re lashing out at men every chance you get and we’re tired of it. #whohurtyou No but seriously, no one likes the angry woman, who’s always angry, never smiles and is extremely difficult to be around. It’s unattractive. Believe it or not, a lot of women have this angry friend if they’re not the angry one and that’s a turn off too. Yes, you are judged by the company you keep. We all meet up for drinks and you got the angry one with you, no one is going to have a good time. Leave her in the house commenting recklessly on blogs and if it’s you please just stay away. Thank you.

5.Clothes(Materialism)
No one expects women to be in the latest Oscar de la Renta dress like it’s fashion week every day but we want you to at least put yourself together. For starters, I’m not the most fit guy (I check athletic build if you must know) — So I don’t walk around with my shirt off too often. But every day on the train my eyes are visually assaulted because some women think that kangaroo pouch is what’s hot in the streets. IT’S NOT. Know your body type and dress accordingly. And what about the dingy types? That Bohemian look is cool and all but the white tank top that’s turning yellow, can’t say it does the trick my love. It’s not sexy. All in all women who can’t dress are not attractive. Before I see your mind, I see your outfit, let’s try to make one compliment the other.

6.Unkept feet and nails
Simply put, a mani/pedi is your friend. I don’t have to describe the “hammer time” in your shoes, nor do I have to remind you that biting your nails looks terrible. Chipped nail polish and ashy feet will not be flying either. Talk to the little Asian women and tip them well so you no longer scratch my legs in bed. Thanks.

7.Sense of Entitlement
Ladies have you ever hung out with one of your friends who feels the need to tell you, the men you’re hanging with and anyone within an earshot how she never has to pay for drinks. I always wonder, does she have any money to pay for the drinks she likes to gulp down? Or the women, who are eager to go out, even suggest it but they think the guy should pay for everything. Listen, chivalry is not dead but women who act as though they are entitled to a man’s wallet got to go. It’s unattractive and it’s downright classless. And listen I’m talking about the ladies who think it’s beneath them to stand on the lines at the club too. Are you famous, do you know the bouncer? If the answer is no, shut up and get to the back of the line, we don’t need the fuss.

8.Curses like a sailor
If I can’t bring you home to momma we can’t roll. I can’t stand a woman who every word out her mouth is n word this, n word that, mothereffer this, son of a —– that. Once again, have a cup of class and act like a lady not a garbage man.

9.Promiscuity
If your reputation for “getting it popin” enters the room before you do, that might not be a good look. You’re sleeping with every tom, dick and harry and that’s cool but don’t expect me to think it’s sexy.

10.Posture
This one is from the brothers on Twitter and I think I agree. No one wants a woman all slouched over looking sloppy. You can do it put your back into it. Peace and love ladies, I think you’re beautiful. I hope you enjoy your weekend and in no way was I trying to offend but a dose of keeping it real is always healthy.

11.Lies
12.Being Possessive or selfishness
13.Being too forward
14.Stubbornness
15.Mood

NOTE: This article was first published in 2011

Kenya – A man in his early 40s, who doubles up as a farmer and a transporter, caused a stir at a village in Kirinyaga County when he offered his wife in exchange for a gambling debt after losing his money and prime assets.

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The incident, which happened two weeks ago, however, almost ended tragically when the man turned around later and, wielding a razor-sharp machete, resisted his wife to be taken away by his creditor.

The industrious man owns an ox-cart that he uses to carry goods and luggage, but unfortunately, most of his earnings end up in gambling.

His addiction has, on several occasions, caused strife in his home when he sold household properties to get money to gamble.

Chicken

“Sometimes he gambles with items that are in the house and I only see the winners coming to cart this or that away.

There is nothing I can do to stop them, hence we keep losing our chicken, farm produce and other household goods,” his wife told Crazy Monday.

Not long ago, the man sold an ox at Sh60,000 in preparation to take his son to a secondary school.

But all he did was to take his son for shopping for various school items. He gambled half of what remained.

The next day, he gave his wife some money to take the boy to school, then sold all his dried coffee beans worth thousands to go try win the money he had lost gambling.

As fate would have it, he lost all the money within a few hours.

Determined to recoup his loses, he gambled his remaining ox, which he also lost.

Bewitched

“He must have been rather mad because he finally offered his cart in one last gamble hoping he would win back the what he had lost. It is as if he was possessed or had been bewitched,” said his wife.

When the cart went, the man offered his wife and a price was set.

Some young men among the gamblers were very excited about the strange offer and they happily gambled hoping to win a woman to spend Valentine’s Day with. Needless to say, the luckless man lost.

When he went home, he was unable to eat or sleep and kept swearing he would do ‘something bad’ the whole night.

The following day when the young man who had won the bet came to collect his ‘property’, he saw the man dash out of the house running towards him with a sharp machete in his hand, causing him to flee at lightning speed!

Little Sanele Masilela got hitched in front of 100 guests to mum-of-five Helen Shabangu, who already has a husband.

The couple swapped rings and kissed in the ceremony in Tshwane, South Africa, which Sanele claimed his dead ancestors ordered him to arrange.

But he and his bride did not sign a marriage certificate and do not live together.

His family, who forked out £1,500 on the wedding, insisted it was only a ritual and was not legally binding.

Sanele said: “I told my mother I wanted to get married as I really did want to.

“I’m happy that I married Helen. When I’m older I will marry a lady my own age.”

The boy’s 46-year-old mum Patience said: “Sanele’s grandfather asked him to get married before he died. He chose Helen because he loves her.

“By doing this we made the ancestors happy. If we hadn’t, something bad would have happened in the family.”

Helen said: “It is what the ancestors wanted.”

Read more: thesun.co.uk

According to Toyin, she met her fiance, Adeniyi, on a movie set last year. They were paired as husband and wife and later developed interest in each other.

How he proposed to her

On December 31, 2012, the couple were coming from Moji Olaiya’s movie location. Adeniyi told Toyin to allow them take the car away, giving several excuses. He told her to take a ferry, and on the ferry he proposed.

According to Toyin, “That was the sweetest thing that could ever happen to a woman. He asked and I said yes. I told him that he should have told me so I would have hired people to shout yes on my behalf. We came back and there was a cab waiting for us.”

Unconfirmed reports says the lovers will tie the knot on Valentine’s Day.

When a girl disobeys her parents just to please you,

When a girl spares her busy schedule and sacrifice just to see you,

When a girl says sorry even though she didn’t do anything wrong,

When a girl cries because she still loves you,

When a girl still tries to get you back when you argue,

When a girl no matter how much you hurt her still loves you,

when a girl stops her argument with her guy to save her relationship,

When a girl continuously makes you feel special and tries to make you happy no matter how you treat her as an option and mistreat her,

When a girl is upset but does not tell you as she thinks she is annoying you,

When a girl has tried all her best and wants to quit and leave you because of your rude behaviour but she is not able to do, B
…That girl is a keeper and they are very rare. Don’t let her go! Because one day someone will walk into her life and make her realize why it didn’t work out with you, then you will realize that you just lost a precious treasure.

Divine Muragijimana

Alright my African Ladies, it is time to get real with our African fellows. After a conversation a couple of days ago with some of my African guy friends, I went home thinking: if I was to marry a white man, would that make me a traitor to my “color” or my African roots?

I find the need to write about this after several conversations about African women marrying white men. I wonder if it is time for some of the African men to get a reality grip.  I mean, they can’t, and I mean, CANNOT understand why African women can possibly date, marry, or simply fall in love with anyone else but them. What puzzles me is that they truly look confused, and deeply offended by the idea of African women dating outside of the African circle, especially if said significant other is white- that simply puts them on edge.

Let me break it down a bit:

1. Guys have you ever heard of the little black book? Maybe you thought only guys have it. Well here is a surprise for you- African Women have that little black book full of numbers. And you have probably heard this : if you as a man are not man enough to step up to the plate and treat women the way in which they know they deserve to be treated, one can rest assured, there are other names in the “black book” as well as on speed dial.

That being said and done, African men are not just competing with their village fellows any longer, the world has become a global village. So while  these African guys are fronting,  trying to get a girl who will belong in the kitchen, and find you sleepers when you get home, the African women have a little black book with numbers that roll beyond the villages and the state boundaries.  Therefore, if African men can’t get their acts together, taking African women for granted, then there are other races willing to treat the women in a manner that is becoming. (This off course applies to African Women too). This leads to my next point.

      2.  You are not in your country any longer, and even in your own continent.  Now women have a whole color scheme to pick from. If I was in Burundi, the chances of me marrying a Burundian, beautiful, dark skin man are higher than my being in this wide-world diaspora. Guys, this means you have MORE competition. So you have to adopt: Treat the women with respect, don’t take them for granted because they are African, and most importantly, women have their own careers and have their own plans that might not necessarily include you!

Need I say more on this point? Or should I mention this wonderfully well put together African man who decided that I was just what he needed and not even a week into the “dating” he had already “wifed” me (in his mind off course).  So this week, he told me I was not allowed to travel home because I was a female and could not be safe during my journey, he wanted me to be asleep by 10pm (Ha!), and he was already planning how many children we were going to have, and what he wanted to see when he got home…Needless to say, I walked out of that conversation, and out of that situation never to look back.

3. Love is color blind. When you love someone, does it really matter what color their skin is?  Trust me fellas, if J’something of Mi Casa -(hey a girl can dream)-turned out to be Mr. Right, I won’t think twice about not marrying him because he is not dark-skinned or Burundian. Let me put it this way, if I find a guy that is of another race/ethnicity, who loves me, and I love them, and we find common ground of making a lasting commitment, then I won’t think twice to marrying him.- Even better, my parents agree.

Don’t you love dark-skin? One of my friends asked. The answer to that is I LOVE dark skin- to not love dark-skin would be like not loving my own skin- which by the way I think is fabulous. But that doesn’t mean that I can’t love another skin color.

There is a greater argument that can be made about a certain lack of respect given to African women by African men- especially if they are career-oriented. There is also an argument to be made for gender equality and such; however, these are all deep-seated issues that require their own column. So in the meantime, African guys who are compelled to complain about African women being with white men should understand that if they don’t step up to the plate, and treat African women well, or love them accordingly- someone else will. Again, the horizons are wider, and the choices are endless.

But understand that African women do not choose to not be with African men. Do I want to be with an African guy- yes. But am I going to wait for one to show up- ah…Nope. African men are not entitled to African women and vice versa. It comes down to personal decisions and preferences. You love and are with the one who loves you, and if he/she turns out to be white…then more power to them. Everyone has the right to love whoever they want and who can treat them the way they want to be treated.

Divine Muragijimana is Burundian native living in NYC, editor in chief of Applause Africa, blogger with Africa for Africa, and President of The Council of Young African Leaders (CYAL).  Twitter: @africaforafrica

Clifford and Eva Vevea spent their last few days together holding hands as always thanks to the efforts of nurses at Valley Eldercare Center who moved their beds together.

In life the energetic pair went dancing together, worked around the house together and even pushed their recliners together so they could touch and last Sunday, Clifford aged 93 and Eva aged 90, passed away exactly the same way.

‘They were ready to go,’ daughter-in-law Kip Vevea told the Grand Forks Herald. ‘They said they had had a good life together, and they wanted to go together.’

Local funeral director, Jim Bredman, referred to the close death of spouses as ‘the anniversary syndrome’ but said in most cases it occurs within a year or so.

‘This is a rare case. In my 41-year career, we had one other occasion where we had a companion funeral’ due to death by natural causes. ‘In that case, the two died within a day and a half.’

Clifford and Eva Vevea lived 48 of their 65 years of marriage in Crookston after a ceremony in Thief River Falls where Mr Vevea was born and raised.

After serving in the Army in Philippines and in post-war Japan, Mr Vevea worked with Job Service until his retirement in 1985. His wife retired from her job at a U.S. Department of Agriculture office the year before.

In their leisure time, the couple were renowned for their fabulous moves and regularly went dancing on the weekends.

Their son Kip recalled how they were once featured in the Grand Forks Herald as ‘the Fred Astaire and Ginger Rogers’ of the area.

Close friend Alveda Scholin agreed: They were always together, always wonderfully happy together,” she said. “Especially in the later years, they always held hands.’

She continued: ‘It’s so unreal that they would die on the same day. But Eva had prayed for that. It would have been very sad for the one left behind because of their closeness.’

Family: The couple‘s daughter-in-law recalls how Mr Vevea would songs and poems for his wife and that she prayed they would pass away at the same time

Together forever: On December 15th, Mrs Vevea suffered a heart attack followed shortly by her husband. Mr Clifford died before his wife as they held hands a final time at Valley Eldercare Center

Mrs Vevea was the first to fall ill with a heart attack on December 15 perhaps prompting Mr Vevea’s own heart failure shortly after.

By the time their son had arrived from Texas, they were both in hospital where Mr Vevea had been given stents but suffered kidney failure.

‘I got to talk to him the first day,’ Kip said. ‘After that, I’m not sure he knew we were there.’

His mother on the other hand was slightly more aware and awake enough to place her hand on his.

On Sunday morning Cliff Vevea passed away and a few hours later, after holding his hand for a final time, Eva Vevea died too.

Judy Vevea, their daughter-in-law paid tribute to the example of their endless love in anticipation of tomorrow’s funeral.

‘He wrote poems for her,’ she said. ‘He wrote songs for her. They were madly in love.’
Read more: dailymail.co.uk

Jacintha Saldanha, who has worked at the hospital for four years, was found at an address near the hospital.

The Two Australian DJs telephoned the King Edward VII Hospital and asked to be put through to the ward where Kate was being treated for severe morning sickness.

Miss Saldanha answered the call and put them through to the ward where the Duchess was being cared for, another nurse there updated them on her condition.

A Scotland Yard spokesman said: “Police were called at approximately 9.35am this morning to a report of a woman found unconscious at an address in Weymouth Street, W1.

“London Ambulance Service attended and the woman was pronounced dead at the scene. Inquiries are continuing to establish the circumstances of the incident.

“The death is not being treated as suspicious at this stage.”

London Ambulance Service said: “We were called at 9.25am to an address in Weymouth Street. We sent 2 ambulances crews and a duty officer, sadly the patient was dead at the scene.”

Michael Christian and Mel Greig, DJs on the 2DayFM radio station, broadcast their call to the hospital on Wednesday morning.

Miss Greig, who was impersonating the Queen, asked to speak to her “granddaughter, Catherine” and managed to persuade Miss Saldanha to put her through to the ward where Kate was being treated.

The King Edward VII Hospital released a statement which said: “It is with very deep sadness that we confirm the tragic death of a member of our nursing staff, Jacintha Saldanha.

“Jacintha has worked at the King Edward VII’s Hospital for more than four years. She was an excellent nurse and well-respected and popular with all of her colleagues.

“We can confirm that Jacintha was recently the victim of a hoax call to the hospital. The hospital had been supporting her throughout this difficult time.”

The Duke and Duchess of Cambridge said they were “deeply saddened to learn of the death of Jacintha Saldanha”.

The statement said: “Their Royal Highnesses were looked after so wonderfully well at all times by everybody at King Edward VII Hospital, and their thoughts and prayers are with Jacintha Saldanha’s family, friends and colleagues at this very sad time.”

The prank call was deeply embarrassing for the hospital, which is the medical institution of choice for the Royal Family.

Miss Greig and Mr Christian were lambasted on Twitter as news broke of the nurse’s death, with people calling for them to resign. Both have now shut down their accounts on the micro-blog site.

In the immediate aftermath of the call, the DJs apologised for the prank but later took to Twitter to brag of their success.

Source: Yahoo!News

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What she got instead was the world’s first Live Lip-Dub Proposal.

Pack it up, gentlemen. There’s no way you can compete with this marriage proposal. Isaac Lamb, a Portland actor, created one of the most elaborate ways imaginable to ask his girlfriend to marry him. It’s a stage performance that unfolds in real-time, as his fiancée-to-be rides in the back of an open SUV. He enlisted the help of 60 family members and friends to lip-sync and dance along to Bruno Mars’ “Marry You.” — a tightly choreographed effort that earned the praise of the crooner himself. And most importantly, it netted a yes from his girlfriend Amy. But really, how could she say no? We practically fell in love with Lamb just watching his performance.

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I learnt never to underestimate someone’s capacity for growth. Some changes were phenomenal. Each experienced a variety of emotions, as expected, denial, fear, anger, remorse, more denial and eventually acceptance. Every single patient found their peace before they departed though, every one of them.

When questioned about any regrets they had or anything they would do differently, common themes surfaced again and again. Here are the most common five:

1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
This was the most common regret of all. When people realize that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had not honoured even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made.

It is very important to try and honour at least some of your dreams along the way. From the moment that you lose your health, it is too late. Health brings a freedom very few realise, until they no longer have it.

2. I wish I didn’t work so hard.
This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their children’s youth and their partner’s companionship. Women also spoke of this regret. But as most were from an older generation, many of the female patients had not been breadwinners. All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence.

By simplifying your lifestyle and making conscious choices along the way, it is possible to not need the income that you think you do. And by creating more space in your life, you become happier and more open to new opportunities, ones more suited to your new lifestyle.

3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.
Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result.

We cannot control the reactions of others. However, although people may initially react when you change the way you are by speaking honestly, in the end it raises the relationship to a whole new and healthier level. Either that or it releases the unhealthy relationship from your life. Either way, you win.

4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
Often they would not truly realise the full benefits of old friends until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved. Everyone misses their friends when they are dying.

It is common for anyone in a busy lifestyle to let friendships slip. But when you are faced with your approaching death, the physical details of life fall away. People do want to get their financial affairs in order if possible. But it is not money or status that holds the true importance for them. They want to get things in order more for the benefit of those they love. Usually though, they are too ill and weary to ever manage this task. It all comes down to love and relationships in the end. That is all that remains in the final weeks, love and relationships.

5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.
This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realise until the end that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called ‘comfort’ of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content. When deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again. When you are on your deathbed, what others think of you is a long way from your mind. How wonderful to be able to let go and smile again, long before you are dying.

Life is a choice. It is YOUR life. Choose consciously, choose wisely, choose honestly. Choose happiness

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Pastor E. A. Adeboye

It is better to remain single than to marry than to marry the wrong person!

Marrying the wrong person is like living in hell on earth and divorce isn’t an option!

Don’t ever think you can marry somebody and change the fellow, if the person doesn’t change before you get married it is a settled case!

If you marry just because a guy is rich, tall and handsome but he not a true child of God, you are heading for trouble! Goliath was Tall, king saul was lanky but he lost his crown. Don’t marry a fool.

If a guy is following you to church just to get you , you will know! some guys are in church just to deceive you but the bible says by their fruits you’ll know them. Bible didn’t say by their words you’ll know them , some guys have sweet mouth! Don’t marry a sweet talking demon, watch their fruits!

If you marry someone who doesn’t believe in holiness, you are the one who dug your own grave yourself cos you’ll only be wife NO 1, many others are likely follow!

Romans 8:31 The reason RCCG weds with the bible instead of a ring is because the bible can never change, the word of God stands forever but a ring can be removed at anytime!

Those who will reach the top must be peculiar! There is always room at the top but only few will get there.

Don’t marry a man who has no job! Before God gave Adam a wife, he gave him a job! If he says he is a contractor, ask him for evidence of his previous contracts because you might just be the contract he is on about!

MARRIAGE advice for the GENTs

Don’t marry a Delilah! Don’t marry for beauty . Proverbs 31:30 says beauty is vain.

Don’t ever marry outside the church and you have no reason to marry outside RCCG. The reason is that If you are both from the same church even when trouble comes it is easier for the pastors to handle it!

Don’t marry a girl simply because she can sing! In the choir there are some people that can sing but they are falling angels! Marry a prayer warrior! If a girl cannot pray for 1 hour, don’t marry her.

Don’t marry a girl who is lazy! Don’t marry a girl who cannot cook, she needs to know how to do cores and cook because you cannot afford to be eating out all the time.

Don’t marry a girl who is worldly! If you do, you have carried what you’ll worship for the rest of your life!

Arnold Schwarzenegger

“I think it was the stupidest thing I’ve done in the whole relationship. It was terrible. I inflicted tremendous pain on Maria and unbelievable pain on the kids,” Schwarzenegger said of the affair that led to a son, who is now 14.

The former Republican governor of California made the comments in an interview with “60 Minutes” that is scheduled to air Sunday, as the one-time “Mr. Universe” and Hollywood action star tries to rebrand himself and promote his new autobiography, “Total Recall:

My Unbelievably True Life Story.” CBS aired excerpts of the interview Friday.

After leaving the governor’s office in January 2011, Schwarzenegger, 65, has launched an effort to redeem his reputation in the wake of the embarrassing public revelations about the affair he had with Mildred Baena, a housekeeper who reportedly worked for the family for 20 years. Their son, Joseph, was born just days after Schwarzenegger’s youngest child with Shriver.

Baena listed her former husband as the father on the birth certificate and has said she did not know for certain who the father was until the boy began looking more and more like Schwarzenegger.

The “60 Minutes” interview comes a week after Schwarzenegger launched a think tank at the University of Southern California, the Schwarzenegger Institute for State and Global Policy. He started it in part, he said, because he accomplished only about half of what he set out to do as governor.

Schwarzenegger has also returned to his acting career, appearing most recently in “The Expendables 2” and the forthcoming “The Tomb,” co-starring Sylvester Stallone, and “The Last Stand,” which opens in January.

Shriver, a member of the politically powerful Kennedy clan, filed for divorce in July. In a separate excerpt of the “60 Minutes” interview released by CBS earlier this week, Schwarzenegger said Shriver has not read his book.

“I think that Maria is, you know, wishing me well in everything I do,” Schwarzenegger said.

According to excerpts obtained Friday by The Associated Press in advance of the book’s release, Schwarzenegger says Republican political guru Karl Rove predicted that the 2003 California recall election that put the actor in office would never happen.

Schwarzenegger writes that he visited Rove in early 2003, when the strategist was a top White House adviser.

Not only did Rove tell Schwarzenegger that the election would not happen, he introduced the actor to then-national security adviser Condoleezza Rice as his pick to run for California governor in 2006.

Schwarzenegger felt snubbed.

He asks, “How could Rove have been so wrong?” – Sapa-AP

President Barack Obama, right, is picked-up and lifted off the ground by Scott Van Duzer as the pizza shop owner shows his appreciation in Florida

President Obama got a lift on the campaign trail today after a visit to a Florida pizza shop.

Scott Van Duzer, owner of the Big Apple Pizza, is clearly a fan of the president after he lifted him off the ground in a manly bear hug to show his appreciation.

Obama could not contain his delight as he laughed heartily with the pizza shop owner after he was finally set down on the ground in front of shocked customers and some of the President’s staff.

U.S. President Barack Obama hugs Scott Van Duzer at Big Apple Pizza and Pasta Italian Restaurant in Fort Pierce, Florida, while campaigning across the state by bus

Obama could not contain his delight as he laughed heartily with the pizza shop owner in front of shocked customers and some of the President’s staff

President Barack Obama and daughter Malia Obama participate in a service project to commemorate the September 11th National Day of Service and Remembrance at DC Central Kitchen (Official White House Photo by Pete Souza)

First Lady Michelle Obama harvests with some fifth grade students in the White House Kitchen Garden on the White House’s South Lawn on Tuesday (June 16) in Washington

First Lady Michelle Obama harvests with some fifth grade students in the White House Kitchen Garden on the White House’s South Lawn on Tuesday (June 16) in Washington

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Usher and Tameka

As TMZ reported, Usher emerged victorious after an arduous custody trial with his ex Tameka Raymond, in which the judge awarded Usher primary custody of the couple’s two sons.

Tameka filed papers asking for a new trial — on the grounds the judge had received campaign contributions from Usher’s lawyer and was biased as a result — but Usher says that’s BS.

The singer filed his own response on Wednesday asking the court to deny Tameka’s request, claiming her motion is “an assault on the integrity of the court.”

Usher believes Tameka is delusional, claiming if she were granted a new trial, it would be grounds for a reversal of ALL trials where a lawyer had contributed to a judge’s campaign.

Usher claims the motion “constitutes a continuum of [Tameka's] vile and unsupported claims that every person who dared testify against her … is biased and tainted.”

A judge has yet to rule on the matter.

She is a good homemaker and a wonderful mother, but she isn’t that educated or sophisticated.

Over the years I have furthered my studies and because of my job I socialise a lot. Most of the time my wife does not join me because I feel she might be uncomfortable and not know how to socialise. I feel as if I have moved forward and she has been left behind.

I met a woman at a company functions. She is a colleague’s wife. I know this sounds stupid, but I fell in love with her as soon as I saw her. She is beautiful, intelligent and sophisticated. She seemed to be very interested in me too and we spent most of the evening talking.

She gave me her cell number and said I should contact her. I thought this was an indication that she wanted to meet me again. I phoned her, but she either doesn’t take my call or says she is in a meeting and can’t speak.

I am getting so frustrated. I want is to see her. I honestly believe we could have a future together.

What should I do? – Anon, Johannesburg

ADVICE FROM DEAR DUDU:
You are risking so much by pursuing this woman – your family, career and reputation. You are being so unfair and demeaning to your wife.

A marriage is a partnership. You work together to uplift each other. How is she meant to grow if you don’t show her that you believe in her and give her a chance to grow. You say that you love her, but the way you are behaving shows anything but this.

If you truly cared, she would be by your side and you would be guiding her through social situations.

How can you assume she will be uncomfortable? Have you ever discussed this with her?

How would you feel if someone did not give you a chance and just assumed you would be hopeless. Sowetanlive

In his last interview Mr Anderson told the Daily Telegraph of his love for his wife and their sons Cody, 5, and Jakob, 3.

“I’m not afraid of dying but I am afraid of leaving them behind,” he said.

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In his last entry on his blog How The Light Gets In, posted by his wife after his death, Mr Anderson reflected on his battle with cancer.

“The truth being we’re all broken, we’re all cracked and what so many people see as a fault or a malfunction really is something to be considered useful,” he wrote.

“I’m not sure how much longer I have left, but it appears that the physical and medical signs are all pointing to my end.

“Thank you for journeying with me this far. I pray you find the same peace I have.”

Bowel Cancer Australia spokesman associate professor Graham Newstead says Mr Anderson’s battle with bowel cancer has touched tens of thousands of people.

“Like many people who in some way shared this young man’s journey, those involved with Bowel Cancer Australia are saddened by the death of Kristian Anderson,” he said in a statement.

“We are however also very grateful to him for his brave and valuable work in raising awareness about bowel cancer.”

In this exclusive session with Channels Television Entertainment desk, K-Solo and his wife-Kikelomo, plays the perfect couple as they both, cheerfully deny the recent wife battery allegation that made rounds. The K-Solo‘s as the couple want to be called, claim they were just acting and making pranks on the media and friends with the reports.

Solomon Oyeniyi also known as K-Solo was in May 2012 alleged to regularly beat and steal from his wife as pictures of the wife’s brusied face was released on the internet. The K-Solo’s however denied the battery, claiming they were just acting. Oba K-Solo and the heavily pregnant Olori K-Solo promised to release a movie-for the cinema’s only-on the pranks and how they’ve evolved. The movie, titled ‘Lo ba tan’ will feature the expected Prince K-Solo and the likes of Funke Akindele and many others Nollywood acts.